Coaching

Midlife and menopause coaching for women

Midlife doesn't have to be a phase of life to keep pushing on through, instead it can be a time of positive transition - a moment when you stop running on autopilot and start asking new questions. What do I actually want now? What would I love more of? Who do I want to be in this next chapter?

This stage often arrives with a lot at once: work, family, ageing parents, your own health, and for many women the menopause transition somewhere in the mix. It is truly demanding, and it doesn't have to be coped with in silence.

Midlife can be one of the few moments life hands you an invitation to choose again. The version of you that ran on adrenaline and said yes to everything may be ready to retire, and what wants to take its place is often clearer, bolder and more honest about what matters. Many of my clients arrive not in crisis at all, but with a quiet, insistent thought, "is this it? I want more."

This is exactly where coaching comes in. Together we get clear on what you want this next chapter to look like, and then we make it happen. Coaching is warm, energising and properly action-focused, and often a lot of fun. It is a space to become more yourself and to build a life that fits you.

Who midlife and menopause coaching is for

I work with women in the midlife years who are ready for something to change, whether that is because life has thrown a lot at you, or simply because you have started to want more from this stage than you are currently getting. That includes women navigating perimenopause, menopause and post-menopause, and women for whom hormones are not really the headline at all.

This coaching may be right for you if you are:

  • Feeling a pull towards something more, even if you cannot quite name it yet
  • Asking "is this it?" and wanting this next chapter to be bigger, freer or more truly yours
  • Ready to reconnect with ambition, pleasure, energy or a sense of direction you have put on hold
  • Wanting to become more fully yourself, rather than a smaller or more apologetic version
  • Navigating menopause, including early or unexpected menopause, and wanting to feel like yourself again
  • Ready to put down, or share, an invisible load you have been carrying alone
  • Rebuilding confidence and direction, at work or beyond
  • Considering a career change, or a different way of working that fits the life you actually want
  • Navigating this stage alongside ADHD, autism, or a late diagnosis of either, and curious what becomes possible with the right support
  • Ready to decide what you want next, and to start moving towards it
Although I primarily work with cis-women, my coaching is open to anyone whose experience of life, work, neurodivergence and/or hormonal change has been shaped by being read as a woman, or by being assigned female at birth (AFAB). Whatever your gender or identity, and whenever in life your hormonal changes have arrived, if my approach resonates, you are welcome to book a discovery call.

Midlife, menopause, work and identity

For a lot of women, the most interesting question of midlife is not about symptoms at all. It is about identity. The version of you that thrived on adrenaline and powered through everything may be on its way out, whether through hormonal change, the sheer weight of what you have been carrying, or simply because you have outgrown it. That can feel like loss at first. It is also an opportunity.

In coaching we get curious about what is underneath: what you actually want your life or working life to look like now, what is worth keeping, and what you are ready to let go. Often this turns into something concrete, a career change, a bolder way of living and working, a clearer ask for what you need, or a decision you have been circling for years. We name it, plan it, and start moving on it.

How midlife and menopause coaching works with me

Sessions are warm, conversational, energising and action-focused. I bring significant professional expertise and my own lived experience of midlife and hormone changes, and I'll bring in tools and frameworks whenever they help. As a qualified, BACP-accredited counsellor as well as a coach, I can hold the harder, more emotional moments when they surface, so you never have to leave the difficult parts at the door. But the heart of it is an honest, relational conversation about what you want and how to get there. You set the direction, we move at your pace and we keep our eyes on the change you came for.

What our sessions look like

Most clients book a block of sessions, typically six to begin with, and we usually meet every one or two weeks. Sessions are 60 or 90 minutes, online via Zoom or by telephone.

Early on, we get a clear and honest picture of where you are and what you want including, where it is relevant, untangling what might be hormonal from what is simply life. From there we get to work, whether that is rebuilding confidence, redefining how you work, protecting your energy for what matters, or planning and taking real steps towards a specific change. We aim for you to leave a session with something that has shifted, and something to act on.

My midlife and menopause expertise

I have specialist knowledge of the menopause transition, hormone health and how these can intersect with neurodivergence, especially ADHD and autism, alongside my own lived experience of midlife. I also run a separate menopause-focused therapy practice, so I am at home with the more clinical side of this stage. In coaching, that depth means you can bring the difficult parts too, the grief, the fear, the days it feels like too much, and we will work with them while keeping our focus on where you want to go.

I have trained with the British Menopause Society in CBT for Menopause Symptoms and with the International Menopause Society. I provide training for coaches and therapists on the menopause transition, and I have spoken about menopause and mental health for HuffPost, SELF, the Disordered podcast and the Clearly Clinical professional development podcast.

If you would like to hear me speak on this in more depth, you might find my Clearly Clinical podcast episode, Mind, Mood and Menopause: Understanding Hormonal Transitions in Mental Health Care, useful.

If hormonal change is part of your picture, my free guide Is it me or is it my hormones? and my free Perimenopause Reflection and Symptom Tracker are both available to download on my therapy practice website.

Midlife and menopause coaching FAQs

Is this coaching or therapy?

This is coaching, and it is deliberately forward-looking. It is about what you want next and how to get there, with energy and momentum rather than only looking back. I am also a qualified, BACP-accredited counsellor, so I bring therapeutic training and sensitivity to our coaching, which means the harder, more emotional parts are safe here. But coaching with me is its own thing: collaborative, practical and focused on the life you are building. If it becomes clear that what you really need right now is therapy, I will say so, and we can talk about options, including my separate therapy practice.

Do I have to be going through menopause for this coaching to help?

No. Plenty of my clients are not focused on menopause at all. Some are juggling a full and demanding life, others simply find themselves thinking "is this it?" and wanting more from this chapter. Menopause may be part of your picture or it may not. However midlife has brought you to coaching, that is enough to begin.

I think menopause is relevant for me. Do I need a diagnosis of menopause to start?

No. Many of my clients come to midlife and menopause-focused coaching while they are still working out whether what they are experiencing is perimenopause, early menopause or POI. You do not need blood tests, a GP letter, or anything formal to start. If you are in your 40s or 50s and something has shifted, that is enough to begin.

Can coaching help with midlife issues and menopause at work?

Yes, this is a common reason women come to me. We will work on rebuilding confidence, thinking through whether and how to talk about it at work, planning around symptoms that may be affecting your performance, asking for reasonable adjustments, and clarifying whether your current role still fits, or whether this is the moment to go after something you actually want.

I think I might also be ADHD or autistic. Can you help with both?

Yes, this is a particular area of focus for me. Many women only realise they might be ADHD, autistic or AuDHD in midlife, often because perimenopause stripped away the coping strategies that had been masking it. I have specialist training in both menopause and neurodivergence, and I have spoken publicly about this intersection. Understanding it can be a real turning point, and we can use it to build ways of working and living that suit you.

Is this coaching online?

Yes. I offer sessions online via Zoom or by telephone, which works well for clients across the UK and internationally.

How is this different from a menopause clinic or GP?

Clinical menopause care, including HRT, medical investigations and treatment of physical symptoms, is something I do not do, and you may well be working with a GP or menopause clinic alongside our coaching. What I offer is the life side: getting clear on what you want, rebuilding confidence and direction, and making this stage one you actively shape rather than simply survive.

Midlife and menopause coaching alongside other transitions

Midlife and menopause rarely arrive in isolation. They often coincide with a career rethink, a late neurodivergence diagnosis, or other significant life changes. You can read more about:

  • Career coaching, for women whose midlife or menopause is surfacing the need for a career change
  • ADHD & autism coaching, for neurodivergent women, including those whose neurodivergence has only become visible during midlife
  • Life transition coaching, for the broader life shifts that often arrive alongside this stage

Ready to talk?

I offer a free 30-minute discovery call so we can get a feel for working together and what you want from this next chapter. You do not need to arrive with the answers, or even the right words, just a sense that you are ready for something to shift, or to grow.

Book a discovery call, or contact me to ask a question.